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{May 19, 2019}

Heartland Community Church

May 19 – 25, 2019


LOVE(MATH) 2.0: Husbands

By Joe Davis

It is absolutely fascinating how much God is at work in everything around us. It seems inevitable that whenever I do not write for The Journey, I find the sermons good–but they don’t always create conviction within me. When I do write, I will always feel the Holy Spirit stirring my soul, creating a conviction within me to push deeper into what I just heard. This is one of those times.

Having grown up in church I thought I had a decent understanding of what being a husband was and what being the head of the house should look like. For the last two years, the Holy Spirit has been engaging me in this and slowly challenging what I thought I knew. Upon hearing Dan’s sermon, I know with complete certainty that I have been wrong and have a much different job than I thought. And I feel the huge conviction of the Holy Spirit telling me to look at my relationship with God and my wife in a different way.

As of late, I’ve been struggling with how I’ve been dealing with my family when I speak to them and try to bring authority. I have not had good responses from them, and have definitely not gotten the response that I hoped for. I have felt completely disregarded and blown off, which has left me feeling angry, bitter, powerless, useless and forgotten. Being angry and bitter are things that no one wants to feel, but feeling powerless, useless and forgotten strike very deep in a man’s soul.

It’s a hard thing when I have no power when I was created to lead and influence my family and to be useful and produce. And it’s painful to think that I’ll be ignored because I didn’t contribute enough to this life. I thought that I would have power because I’m the husband, because I’m the dad. And when I speak there would be this authority that I would bring because of that head of family title. Sometimes I do, but I am finding that most of the time that is not the case.

I can’t help but wonder that God is purposefully using these feelings when my family isn’t listening to me to bring about changes in my life–and for me to view my role in a different manner. What if I am supposed to bring a different kind of authority, based on what my gifts are, not solely on a title? What if I’m supposed to engage my wife and children differently, in a manner that uses my gifts and shows how fearfully, wonderfully and uniquely I am made in the image of God?

Admittedly (and sadly), I have not been doing that. As I write this, I confess that I have not been the husband I have been called to be. I have work in me to be done and I need to choose to make those changes and allow the Holy Spirit to continue to develop me. I pray I can see that what I offer my wife and family is not solely based on a title, but who I am as a beloved son of God, called to be a representation of God’s love towards them.

{sunday 5.19.19}

Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, Romans 12:6, 1 Corinthians 12:4

Observe, Reflect, Apply:

(If you are not currently married, apply these questions to your current or future relationship. If you are a female, ponder these questions as they apply to your close relationship/marriage.)

Am I using my gifts in my marriage to love my wife? Am I the first one to submit and take the lead in showing God’s love? Am I loving my wife as Paul describes love in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a?


{personal reflection and bible reading plan}

As you read the verses each day, make notes of questions you have about what you’re reading as well as answering the reflection questions below. Grab a friend or two to discuss what you are learning and what God is doing in your lives.


{monday 5.20.19}

Read 1 Corinthians 15:42-58

Observe, Reflect, Apply: Describe the differences between physical and spiritual bodies mentioned here in your own words. What hope do these verses inspire in you? What questions?

{tuesday 5.21.19}

Read 1 Corinthians 16:1-11

Observe, Reflect, Apply: Imagine being Paul in this era…you live life on the road (walking, riding on horseback or in a chariot). You move from town to town, staying wtih others and spreading the news about Jesus, and the promises available to those who believe. Would you have chosen that life if you were alive then? What hardships do you think he encountered? What would have been encouraging about that life?

{wednesday 5.22.19}

Read 1 Corinthians 16:12-24

Observe, Reflect, Apply: How do you see the news of Jesus and the news of other believers and believing communities being spread? How does this method of spreading news compare with today?

{thursday 5.23.19}

Read 2 Corinthians 1:1-11

Observe, Reflect, Apply: What kinds of comfort and protection are described here? What comfort or protection do you need from God? Take some time and pray specifically for that need. 

{friday 5.24.19}

Read 2 Corinthians 1:12-22

Observe, Reflect, Apply: Where do you stand firm in life? Where do you waver? How do you practice making your yes a yes, and your no a no? 

{saturday 5.25.19}

Read 2 Corinthians 1:23-2:13

Observe, Reflect, Apply: How are we instructed here to relate to those who harm us or sin against us? Do you find this easy? Or difficult?


{community discussion questions}

We weren’t meant to experience the life of Jesus alone, so we encourage you to rally a few others to discuss what you are hearing, reading, and reflecting on together. Whether you are meeting as a Journey Community group, talking with a few friends throughout the week, or bringing up spiritual conversations around your table at home, feel free to use some of these questions as conversation starters on your journey.

  • Can you name a takeaway or challenge from the Sunday message?
  • How has that been relevant, challenging, or meaningful to your life this week?
  • What have you observed about God, Jesus, yourself, others, or God’s plan for you from these readings?
  • Where do you need a breakthrough from God this week?
  • Who do you need to share what you’re learning about God with?


{extra journey resources}

THE JOURNEY VLOG: Our own Seth Davidson has a Journey Vlog that you can subscribe to on YouTube. Five days out of each week he offers an 8-10 minute overview about the scripture reading for that day. Simply follow along, listening to the corresponding date. CLICK HERE to check it out. Be sure to click "subscribe" on the page!

CLICK HERE to visit The Bible Project site and explore their super simple, super informative Bible videos (and other resources).

CLICK HERE to get the Read Scripture App, from our friends at The Bible Project.

CLICK HERE for more on how to use the observe-reflect-apply approach to getting the most out of your Bible reading.

The Bible App Get a free Bible for your phone, tablet, and computer. Experience the Bible anywhere, with options to highlight, save notes, and share what you are reading with others.

Bible Gateway Provides advanced Bible searching capabilities, which allow readers to find passages in scripture based on keywords, phrases, or scripture reference.


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